Women We Love is a chance for us to
interrogate sit down with the women in our lives whose style we love, work we admire, and heart we adore. We give them the celebrated Proust Questionnaire—which dates back to 19th-century Parisian salons—and throw in a few of our own. Grab a coffee, something to take notes with, and get to know the women we love as they ponder love, death, and the meaning of life.
Without further ado, Spencer Grammer.
On what occasion do you lie? When I believe the truth will hurt.
What do you most value in your friends? Intimacy and honesty.
Which quality do you most desire in a man? The ability to cook…at least one meal.
Which quality do you most desire in a woman? Camaraderie, humor, strength.
Which quality do you most desire in a pair of jeans? Must make my ass look good.
What is your favorite virtue? Humility.
What is your greatest fear? The hair in the drain.
How would you like to die? Young and with a bang.
If you could choose what to come back as, what would it be? A bird of prey, like a Peregrin Falcon.
Who are your favorite writers? T.S. Eliot, T.C. Boyle, Edna St. Vincent Millay, Shirley Jackson.
Which living person do you most despise? Ironically, the person I most love at any given time. Or Donald Trump.
Which living person do you most admire? Jane Goodall.
What is your most marked characteristic? My single dimple.
In which season do you feel most beautiful? Fall.
What do you dislike most about your appearance? My small breasts and athletic legs.
What is your greatest extravagance? Gucci heels.
What is the trait you most deplore in yourself? Flashes of insecurity.
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? Think less.
Which talent would you most like to have? Whistling loudly with my fingers.
What is your favorite occupation? Film Director/Auteur.
What do you consider your greatest achievement? Simultaneously balancing motherhood, the MFA program at Columbia University, recording season four of Rick and Morty, and auditioning during pilot season…all while somehow maintaining friendships and my sanity (barely).
Who was the last person that gave you flowers? My son.
What is your most treasured possession? Diamond and gold cross my father gave me in high school.
Which words or phrases do you most overuse? “Does that make sense?” “Listen to me…”
What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery? Unrequited love.
What or who is the greatest love of your life? God (but also my son).
Where would you like to live? New York City. An Upper West Side brownstone with a view of central park, and one must have a back garden. But also Paris,anywhere in Paris, I literally don’t care what arrondissement.
What is your motto? “So be sure when you step, step with care and great tact. And remember life’s a great balancing act.” —Dr. Seuss, Oh, the Places You’ll Go